Judee Regan is a Business Intuitive and Author of Meaningful Work...the Entrepreneurial Way: Your integrated guide to Career and Personal Life Management. http://www.worldofwork.com/book.shtml . Judee champions taking responsibility for your own life through action, contribution and Work-Life wholeness and well-being through awareness, vision, and choice. Learn more about her philosophy and her services at http://www.worldofwork.com/services.shtml
Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada (PRWEB) July 7, 2004 -- Essential Wisdom is not just about what I hear in the stories of others, it is about what I have learned about myself...the simple truths that when discovered have made all the difference in my life. Unbeknownst to me, my favorite phrase for years and years was 'it doesn't matter'. Every time something would happen that made me feel awful, I'd find myself saying in my head 'it doesn't matter'. It became my preferred method of coping.
This is how it would work. If it was some big kafuffle with strangers, the telephone company, the manufacturers of a defective product, I'd be in there fighting to the end, making sure that justice would be served and I would get what was important to me. I was good at it and I would work tenaciously to make sure that what mattered was taken care of.
However I was not so diligent on my own behalf. People close to me could say or do something and I would know at a gut level that it was wrong for me or the relationship. However I did not say what I really felt...probably because I didn't want to rock the boat and above all I wanted to be seen as nice, as the peace keeper. I was not being truthful to myself about what I wanted or needed and in fairness...I had probably so perfected the 'it doesn't matter' skill over the years, I didnt have a clue what I wanted or needed.
You might ask, how could someone so accomplished in addressing what matters in the outer world be found so wanting in her personal life. Good question and one I finally got around to asking myself. It was shocking to me when I saw all the little pieces of myself I had given away under the guise of 'it doesn't matter'. As a matter of fact, by the time I was done with all my 'it doesn't matters'; I am surprised that there was anything left of me that mattered.
And the essential wisdom in my story? If you find yourself saying 'it doesn't matter', be careful, be conscious and be attentive on your own behalf. One 'it doesn't matter' can easily slip through unnoticed but it can also become a way of life...far more easily than you can imagine. Believe me, I know. You do matter, it does matter and that's all that matters!
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