In his new book, author Charles Harry reveals the reasons behind mens sometimes puzzling behavior toward love, commitment and relationships.
(PRWEB) February 7, 2005 -- Why are there so many insensitive men? Not even men know for sure. But author Charles Harry believes hes found the answer: All males are born insensitive and must struggle to inhibit insensitive conduct throughout life. In his new book, ‘Confessing with girls: money, lies, sex, and insensitive men (Bertram & Knott, May 2005), Harry exposes the truth behind mens sometimes puzzling behavior toward love, commitment and relationships.
Readers may find some of the points raw, blunt, and ruthlessly unforgiving yet at its core, the content is factual and provides a unique insight into the mind of the single guy. Men are not subtle animals," Harry points out. And neither are our thought processes. If women could see into the male mind for just one day with no barriers, what they would see is the first half of this book." Consider three points Harry recognizes as deep-felt in men yet rarely, if ever, voiced:
The Love Percentage:
A man is able to love in degrees or percentages. He may love you, move in with you, give you all the signs he is ready to marry you yet be able to break up with you without a second thought if someone better comes along. This is a man who is only sixty percent in love with you, or forty percent. Women must learn how to ‘calculate his love percentage. His behavior will give it away. For example: he opens the car door for you. But does he shut it? Trouble starts when you dont know what the nuances mean.
He Loves You, is Committed to You, and Wants To Marry You But Hell Still Look at Other Women:
If you know your man doesnt do it, he has the most acutely developed peripheral vision in the history of humankind. No guy in his right mind will tell you he is actually fantasizing about the sexy new sales clerk in the supermarket or the bombshell who just crossed his path. But unfortunately thats exactly whats happening. Its rude and disrespectful behavior but the truth is: he doesnt do it because hes dissatisfied with you. He does it because hes visually attracted and its his nature to briefly venture outside of the relationship—even if its just in his own mind.
He Wishes He Could Treat You Like Property—If He Could Get Away With It:
Possessiveness is one of the most difficult developments a relationship can face. It can happen to either party and usually is a sign of distrust. But for a man, it goes far beyond distrust. The compulsion to possess, especially a mate, is hardwired into the male psyche. As lions are possessive of their mates, so are human males possessive of theirs. The difference is men and women know its unacceptable behavior and deal with it, usually harshly, when it surfaces. And youll find some men dont deal with it as effectively as others.
Being male, why did Harry write such a book? Im not a doctor or psychologist," he says. After being recently dumped, a woman challenged me to write what really went on in mens heads without the fluff or prerequisite dating advice. A simple operating manual about men. This book is for her." Far from a self-help offering, the book is a satire on relationships and includes more than a few insights you wont hear from your hubby any time soon. ‘Confessing with girls: money, lies, sex, and insensitive men will be published in May 2005 by Bertram & Knott Publishing.
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